So… Do You Have Commitment Issues or Is It Just Trauma?
Commitment anxiety often passes if you don’t immediately act on it. Pause before pulling away.
Being in a relationship with someone who has commitment issues can feel like walking through a minefield. And having commitment issues can be emotionally debilitating. One moment, everything feels great, and the next, it comes tumbling down.
If you’ve ever found yourself asking ChatGPT, “Why does closeness scare them?” or “Why do I shut down when relationships get serious?”, then keep reading. I will break it down in a way that actually makes sense, and more importantly, helps.
What Commitment Issues Really Mean (And What They Don’t)
People with commitment issues want love, but struggle with what love demands: consistency, vulnerability, and emotional risk.
It’s not just about relationships. It can show up in careers, friendships, and even personal goals. Basically, commitment issues are about avoidance. Avoidance of pain, loss, failure, or vulnerability. Think of it like keeping one foot out the door “just in case”.
What commitment issues are not:
Being selective
Wanting to take things slow
Not liking someone enough
